Hello Everyone.....

SexyRedXterra · 07-07-2004, 02:13 PM

That;s the thing though. Our world has become so "me-centered." A marriage is not supposed to be. You should be concerned more with making the other happy as long as you are doing it morally. If one is more concerned with what one can get, then I question why one got married.

DANA · 07-07-2004, 02:22 PM

Marriage is 100% 100% not 50/50. 53 years and counting with my one and only

DANA

Shaun · 07-07-2004, 02:33 PM

SRX you should also remember that it is not a one way relationship if you are working to make the other happy -- what keeps you happy? My 1st Marriage was exactly what OX was talking about when I was dating my ex and even living with her we both had no complaints in the attention we were paying one another. Once we were married she hit the brakes and I was miserable but trying to make her happy what I didn't realize was I was miserable. You have to take care of yourself first

Oxford · 07-07-2004, 03:02 PM

I think that SRX has an "idealistic" view of marriage. Wish I could say that's how it works. Not so.

It's full of continuous adjustments in making it work. DANA also told it right. Marriage is 100%...not a 50/50 deal. 100% is made up of all sorts of combinations of numbers (issues to deal with in marriage) totaling 100%.

SexyRedXterra · 07-07-2004, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Oxford

I think that SRX has an "idealistic" view of marriage. Wish I could say that's how it works. Not so.

It's full of continuous adjustments in making it work. DANA also told it right. Marriage is 100%...not a 50/50 deal. 100% is made up of all sorts of combinations of numbers (issues to deal with in marriage) totaling 100%.

I dont have an idealistic view of marriage at all. I know there are rough patches along the road, and staying married is a decision, not a whim. What I was saying is what a marriage is supposed to be. It's good though to strive for the best you can (it'll never be perfect, but it will be good). That was my point.

SexyRedXterra · 07-07-2004, 03:58 PM

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Originally Posted by DANA

Marriage is 100% 100% not 50/50. 53 years and counting with my one and only

DANA

Congratulations! That's awesome.

ScottD · 07-07-2004, 05:10 PM

You do know there is the otherside? You don't have to run off and get married at the kick of a bucket. Marriage is not for everyone and I think waiting until both partners are mature enough to even handle that decision is approriate. Some people that maybe 20 years old and others that is 30 years of age.

And then of course there are the ones that just aren't going to be wrangled into it at all.

Guess which one I favor?

SexyRedXterra · 07-07-2004, 06:08 PM

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Originally Posted by ScottD

You do know there is the otherside? You don't have to run off and get married at the kick of a bucket. Marriage is not for everyone and I think waiting until both partners are mature enough to even handle that decision is approriate. Some people that maybe 20 years old and others that is 30 years of age.

And then of course there are the ones that just aren't going to be wrangled into it at all.

Guess which one I favor?

I totally agree with you. I don't want to marry someone until it's right. That means financially, not just maturely. I also don't want to get married until I've lived on my own for a little bit. I'm independent, and I want to see the world before I settle down. When I do however, I want a huge family--8 kids (I know now that none of you will talk to me now--lol).

ScottD · 07-07-2004, 06:38 PM

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I want a huge family--8 kids

Eeeech!

Mandy · 07-07-2004, 06:41 PM

:ballons: :ballons: :ballons: :ballons: :ballons:

Hi DI, I'm very happy to learn that you're OK and back to posting.

I enjoy your posts very much and look foward to see them.......

Remember, you're the Queen !!!!

Mandy · 07-07-2004, 06:49 PM

:nod: :nod: :nod: :nod: :nod:

How you procreate?

You just do it, my daughter will be 19 years this month and I've never been married, but allways took care of my baby.

We're so attached to each other that we talk allmost everyday, I know about the boyfriend and her mother doesn't, go figure !

She's the light of my life and I can't imagine a life without her !

As long as you take care of your children, you're Ok with me !!!

:nod: :nod: :nod: :nod: :nod:

missharpshooter · 07-08-2004, 02:23 AM

Thanks everyone, for making me feel so good..it is so great to come back and be so welcomed....and thanks Mandy for the nice compliments....Sexy your time will come and you will know when it is right....*8 kids..though Wow...you better find a man with plently of dough ....as it will cost a whole bunch to feed that crew...LOLLLL Thank-you but I think I will just stay a bachelorette...but I would like to have a nice man to enjoy life with...maybe my time will come too...I just hope I will still be young enough to enjoy it..LOL

SexyRedXterra · 07-08-2004, 05:51 PM

You will always be young if you want to be.

7mmag6 · 07-08-2004, 08:35 PM

Hi Di

sorry I took so long to see your post, you need to stick around, you know how much we love ya, you need to come to NM and teach me how to shoot skeet, I went for the first time a couple of months ago. I hit a few clays, and managed to scare the heck out of the people on the next one over, in other words --I sucked--its good to see you back and I hope you are getting back to good health :ballons: ------

looks like srx and scott are going to have 8 kids---Love is in the air

ScottD · 07-08-2004, 10:22 PM

I may have 8 kids somewhere out there. Hehehe! I'm not telling.

SexyRedXterra · 07-09-2004, 06:43 AM

I'll take them!

colt45 · 07-09-2004, 10:06 AM

8 kids hu?
ok, we'll see what you say after two.

my ex wanted six and after two she told me to go #### myself she wasn't haveing anymore.
i laughed and reminded her that six was her idea not mine.

LADY DIE, ABOUT STINKIN TIME YOU GOT BACK HERE! YOU BEEN MISSIN ALOT OF FUR FLYIN ROUND.
AND WE MISSED YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

07-07-2004, 02:13 PM	#41
SexyRedXterra Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: NJ Shore and Western PA Posts: 1,206	That;s the thing though. Our world has become so "me-centered." A marriage is not supposed to be. You should be concerned more with making the other happy as long as you are doing it morally. If one is more concerned with what one can get, then I question why one got married. __________________ "God doesn't always do things on our schedule, but he's always right on time."

07-07-2004, 02:33 PM	#43
Shaun Super Moderator Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Nashville, TN Posts: 8,776 Images: 1	SRX you should also remember that it is not a one way relationship if you are working to make the other happy -- what keeps you happy? My 1st Marriage was exactly what OX was talking about when I was dating my ex and even living with her we both had no complaints in the attention we were paying one another. Once we were married she hit the brakes and I was miserable but trying to make her happy what I didn't realize was I was miserable. You have to take care of yourself first __________________ "Homeland Security is the responsibility of an armed citizen" ME http://webpages.charter.net/s.s.v/

07-07-2004, 03:02 PM	#44
Oxford Super Moderator Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Gladstone, Missouri Posts: 13,217 Blog Entries: 4	I think that SRX has an "idealistic" view of marriage. Wish I could say that's how it works. Not so. It's full of continuous adjustments in making it work. DANA also told it right. Marriage is 100%...not a 50/50 deal. 100% is made up of all sorts of combinations of numbers (issues to deal with in marriage) totaling 100%. __________________ "If it's worth doing, it's worth doing right".

07-07-2004, 05:10 PM	#47
ScottD Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Evanston, IL Posts: 1,020	You do know there is the otherside? You don't have to run off and get married at the kick of a bucket. Marriage is not for everyone and I think waiting until both partners are mature enough to even handle that decision is approriate. Some people that maybe 20 years old and others that is 30 years of age. And then of course there are the ones that just aren't going to be wrangled into it at all. Guess which one I favor? __________________ "Some people can not live without wilderness"-Aldo Leopold

07-07-2004, 06:41 PM	#50
Mandy Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: San Juan, Puerto Rico Posts: 1,641	Thank God You're OK !!!!!!!!!!!!! :ballons: :ballons: :ballons: :ballons: :ballons: Hi DI, I'm very happy to learn that you're OK and back to posting. I enjoy your posts very much and look foward to see them....... Remember, you're the Queen !!!! __________________ :assult: :assult: :assult: :assult: :assult: Better be judged by 12 than carried by 6. _________________________________ If you gonna die, die with your boots on ! Iron Maiden _________________________________ The deeper you go, the better it feels ! Divers Motto :uzi: :uzi: :uzi: :uzi: :uzi:

07-07-2004, 02:22 PM	#42
DANA Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: WAITSFIELD VERMONT Posts: 1,618	Marriage is 100% 100% not 50/50. 53 years and counting with my one and only DANA

07-07-2004, 06:49 PM	#51
Mandy Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: San Juan, Puerto Rico Posts: 1,641	:nod: :nod: :nod: :nod: :nod: How you procreate? You just do it, my daughter will be 19 years this month and I've never been married, but allways took care of my baby. We're so attached to each other that we talk allmost everyday, I know about the boyfriend and her mother doesn't, go figure ! She's the light of my life and I can't imagine a life without her ! As long as you take care of your children, you're Ok with me !!! :nod: :nod: :nod: :nod: :nod: __________________ :assult: :assult: :assult: :assult: :assult: Better be judged by 12 than carried by 6. _________________________________ If you gonna die, die with your boots on ! Iron Maiden _________________________________ The deeper you go, the better it feels ! Divers Motto :uzi: :uzi: :uzi: :uzi: :uzi:

07-08-2004, 02:23 AM	#52
missharpshooter Senior Member Join Date: May 2002 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 992 Images: 2	Thanks Everyone.... Thanks everyone, for making me feel so good..it is so great to come back and be so welcomed....and thanks Mandy for the nice compliments....Sexy your time will come and you will know when it is right....*8 kids..though Wow...you better find a man with plently of dough ....as it will cost a whole bunch to feed that crew...LOLLLL Thank-you but I think I will just stay a bachelorette...but I would like to have a nice man to enjoy life with...maybe my time will come too...I just hope I will still be young enough to enjoy it..LOL __________________ IF IT DOESN'T GET HOT..IT DOESN'T HAVE ENOUGH FIREPOWER....DBL TAPP IS NOT DANCING..

07-08-2004, 05:51 PM	#53
SexyRedXterra Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: NJ Shore and Western PA Posts: 1,206	You will always be young if you want to be. __________________ "God doesn't always do things on our schedule, but he's always right on time."

07-08-2004, 08:35 PM	#54
7mmag6 Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2002 Posts: 337 Images: 1	Hi Di sorry I took so long to see your post, you need to stick around, you know how much we love ya, you need to come to NM and teach me how to shoot skeet, I went for the first time a couple of months ago. I hit a few clays, and managed to scare the heck out of the people on the next one over, in other words --I sucked--its good to see you back and I hope you are getting back to good health :ballons: ------ looks like srx and scott are going to have 8 kids---Love is in the air

07-08-2004, 10:22 PM	#55
ScottD Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Evanston, IL Posts: 1,020	I may have 8 kids somewhere out there. Hehehe! I'm not telling. __________________ "Some people can not live without wilderness"-Aldo Leopold

07-09-2004, 06:43 AM	#56
SexyRedXterra Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: NJ Shore and Western PA Posts: 1,206	I'll take them! __________________ "God doesn't always do things on our schedule, but he's always right on time."

07-09-2004, 10:06 AM	#57
colt45 Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Occupied Territories of New York (Buffalo) Posts: 2,898	8 kids hu? ok, we'll see what you say after two. my ex wanted six and after two she told me to go #### myself she wasn't haveing anymore. i laughed and reminded her that six was her idea not mine. LADY DIE, ABOUT STINKIN TIME YOU GOT BACK HERE! YOU BEEN MISSIN ALOT OF FUR FLYIN ROUND. AND WE MISSED YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! __________________ "A fear of weapons is a sign of retarded sexual and emotional maturity" -Sigmund Freud, General Introduction to Psychoanalysis "If guns cause crime, all of mine are defective." - Ted Nugent "Self-defense is Nature's eldest law." -John Dryden