Not a good week

Snakebite · 11-10-2005, 05:38 PM

This past week has been one of the worst in recent memory.
First, my mom went into the hospital for some minor surgery. They put a stint in the aorta and one in her leg. Pretty simple stuff but something went terribly wrong when they went into the other leg. Her blood pressure dropped to almost zero and she was bleeding internally into the abdomen. It was a close call but she made it. She is now recuperating.

This morning was probably THE most shocking, tragic thing that has ever happened. Its hard to even put into words.

I got a phone call at about 7:30 this morning. I wont use names as they havent been released yet but my neices husbands parents were found dead.
These were some darn good people. Everybody liked them. They were the kind of people you would be proud to have as a neighbor. The father and son had the greatest relationship and did a lot together.

Apparently, for some unknown reason, the wife shot her husband and then herself. This was so unlike her. Thats why we are all so shocked.

Hard to imagine how many lives were affected by this. The new grandbaby wont have grandparents. They were his babysitter. My neice and husband will probably have to be sedated and hospitalized from the shock of this. Maybe nobody will ever know the reason, but these were some darn good people. I'm still having trouble realizing that this happened and they are gone forever. Dammit.

gunssb · 11-10-2005, 07:00 PM

My condolences...

Rave · 11-10-2005, 08:10 PM

what can one say at a time like this,it's a tragedy,plain and simple.our hearts go out to all of you.

troy2000 · 11-10-2005, 09:04 PM

There's not much I can say, except that maybe there were reasons which made sense to them, or at least to her. The fact that we're also feeling a little of your pain doesn't lessen what you and the others are going through, but you have our moral support anyway.

And good luck to your mother.

Troy · 11-10-2005, 09:31 PM

some things may never be understood. i am sorry for what you and everyone involved are suffering. take care. as well, good luck to your mom.

Johan Malan · 11-10-2005, 10:03 PM

My condolances to your family.

jerry · 11-10-2005, 10:26 PM

With you my brother

Dale · 11-11-2005, 09:03 AM

My thoughts will be with you, Snake....rest easy and stay strong.

Oxford · 11-11-2005, 09:56 AM

I can feel your hurt, Snakebite. I'm sorry that you and your family have to go through this senseless tragedy, but I'm also glad that your mother seems to be recouperating from the stint operation.

Apollyon67 · 11-11-2005, 07:09 PM

My Condolences Snakebite. Our prayers are with you and the family.

Snakebite · 11-11-2005, 07:29 PM

I want to thank all of you for the prayers and support.
I will admit I wasnt thinking too clearly yesterday from the shock when I wrote this.
Much more has come to surface after the police investigation.
Still doesnt change the outcome.
I have a very hard time picturing John getting shot twice and it was probably in the back when he wasnt looking and was unaware.
Some things arent always as they appear. The wife had written a suicide note. She had planned it so in my book, its premeditated murder. Cant do a thing to a dead person.
I don't know if I can forgive her for what she did. It wont do me any darn good to hold a grudge though. Sort of a catch 22. She was nice, John was a great guy.
Maybe one of lifes hard lessons and I'm being tested.
Anyway, time to move forward. The hard part is just beginning with cleaning the house, funerals, etc.
Again, thanks for the kind words. It really does help.

SPOCAHP ANAR · 11-12-2005, 12:51 PM

Bummer dude; I must have missed this when it was first posted. Hope things can get back on track for your family.

Kurtis · 11-12-2005, 02:30 PM

My wife and I send our deepest condolences. Hang in there and we're all praying for you and your family.

ducktapehero · 11-12-2005, 02:42 PM

Prayers sent for all.

11-10-2005, 05:38 PM	#1
Snakebite Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Tucson, Mexico Posts: 1,837 Trader Rating: (0)	Not a good week This past week has been one of the worst in recent memory. First, my mom went into the hospital for some minor surgery. They put a stint in the aorta and one in her leg. Pretty simple stuff but something went terribly wrong when they went into the other leg. Her blood pressure dropped to almost zero and she was bleeding internally into the abdomen. It was a close call but she made it. She is now recuperating. This morning was probably THE most shocking, tragic thing that has ever happened. Its hard to even put into words. I got a phone call at about 7:30 this morning. I wont use names as they havent been released yet but my neices husbands parents were found dead. These were some darn good people. Everybody liked them. They were the kind of people you would be proud to have as a neighbor. The father and son had the greatest relationship and did a lot together. Apparently, for some unknown reason, the wife shot her husband and then herself. This was so unlike her. Thats why we are all so shocked. Hard to imagine how many lives were affected by this. The new grandbaby wont have grandparents. They were his babysitter. My neice and husband will probably have to be sedated and hospitalized from the shock of this. Maybe nobody will ever know the reason, but these were some darn good people. I'm still having trouble realizing that this happened and they are gone forever. Dammit.

11-10-2005, 08:10 PM	#3
Rave Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Tampa Posts: 6,744 Trader Rating: (0)	what can one say at a time like this,it's a tragedy,plain and simple.our hearts go out to all of you. __________________ USAF '62-'66 .

11-10-2005, 10:26 PM	#7
jerry Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 10,760 Trader Rating: (0)	With you my brother __________________

11-11-2005, 09:03 AM	#8
Dale Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Too Dang Hot, Arizona Posts: 4,284 Trader Rating: (0)	My thoughts will be with you, Snake....rest easy and stay strong. __________________ "It confuses me how some people can vigorously go against the 2nd. Amendment and still call themselves patriotic"-me

11-11-2005, 09:56 AM	#9
Oxford Super Moderator Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Gladstone, Missouri Posts: 12,987 Trader Rating: (0)	I can feel your hurt, Snakebite. I'm sorry that you and your family have to go through this senseless tragedy, but I'm also glad that your mother seems to be recouperating from the stint operation. __________________ "If it's worth doing, it's worth doing right".

11-10-2005, 07:00 PM	#2
gunssb Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: socal Posts: 1,833 Trader Rating: (0)	My condolences...

11-10-2005, 09:04 PM	#4
troy2000 Resident Armed Liberal Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Southern California Posts: 9,142 Trader Rating: (0)	There's not much I can say, except that maybe there were reasons which made sense to them, or at least to her. The fact that we're also feeling a little of your pain doesn't lessen what you and the others are going through, but you have our moral support anyway. And good luck to your mother.

11-10-2005, 09:31 PM	#5
Troy Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Manitoba Canada Posts: 2,502 Trader Rating: (0)	some things may never be understood. i am sorry for what you and everyone involved are suffering. take care. as well, good luck to your mom.

11-10-2005, 10:03 PM	#6
Johan Malan Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Saskatchewan Canada Posts: 302 Trader Rating: (0)	My condolances to your family.

11-11-2005, 07:09 PM	#10
Apollyon67 Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Southern Maryland Posts: 2,230 Trader Rating: (0)	My Condolences Snakebite. Our prayers are with you and the family. __________________ "To err is human, to repent divine; to persist devilish." Ben Franklin

11-11-2005, 07:29 PM	#11
Snakebite Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Tucson, Mexico Posts: 1,837 Trader Rating: (0)	I want to thank all of you for the prayers and support. I will admit I wasnt thinking too clearly yesterday from the shock when I wrote this. Much more has come to surface after the police investigation. Still doesnt change the outcome. I have a very hard time picturing John getting shot twice and it was probably in the back when he wasnt looking and was unaware. Some things arent always as they appear. The wife had written a suicide note. She had planned it so in my book, its premeditated murder. Cant do a thing to a dead person. I don't know if I can forgive her for what she did. It wont do me any darn good to hold a grudge though. Sort of a catch 22. She was nice, John was a great guy. Maybe one of lifes hard lessons and I'm being tested. Anyway, time to move forward. The hard part is just beginning with cleaning the house, funerals, etc. Again, thanks for the kind words. It really does help.

11-12-2005, 12:51 PM	#12
SPOCAHP ANAR Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: SC-upstate Posts: 4,032 Trader Rating: (0)	Bummer dude; I must have missed this when it was first posted. Hope things can get back on track for your family. __________________ Spocrest Out!..........

11-12-2005, 02:30 PM	#13
Kurtis Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: CT Posts: 35 Trader Rating: (0)	My wife and I send our deepest condolences. Hang in there and we're all praying for you and your family.

11-12-2005, 02:42 PM	#14
ducktapehero Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Southern Missouri Posts: 319 Trader Rating: (0)	Prayers sent for all. __________________ Is it Duck or Duct Tape? http://www.octanecreative.com/ducttape/duckvsduct.html "Me fail English? That's unpossible!!"----Ralph Wiggum